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Teach Kids Responsibility by Replacing Blame with Curiosity

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  Children don’t learn accountability by being cornered. They learn it by being invited into understanding. When a child denies responsibility—“I didn’t do it!” or “It wasn’t my fault!”—it’s rarely defiance. It’s a sign that their impulse control and emotional regulation are still developing. They’re protecting themselves from shame, not rejecting responsibility. Blame shuts down learning. Curiosity opens it. Replace Blame with Curiosity Instead of asking “Why did you do that?” —which sounds like accusation—try questions that invite reflection: “Walk me through what happened.” “What were you hoping would happen?” “What can we do to fix it?” These questions shift the focus from guilt to growth. They help the child explore cause and effect, intention and outcome, without fear of punishment. Over time, this builds the neural circuitry for accountability instead of avoidance. Why It Works Curiosity activates the brain’s problem‑solving centers. Blame activates its defense systems. When...
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When a Face Changes: How People Live After Permanent Disfigurement

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  There are moments in life when the body is altered so suddenly that the mind can’t keep up. An accident, a fire, a medical emergency—something happens, and a person emerges alive but changed. The world sees the change immediately. The person living inside that body often needs months or years to understand what the change means. I’ve always been struck by the quiet courage of people who survive disfigurement. Not the movie‑script kind of courage, but the daily, unglamorous kind: waking up, looking in the mirror, and deciding to keep going. It’s a form of resilience that rarely gets celebrated, yet it’s one of the most profound human strengths. The First Layer: Shock and Identity Whiplash People often describe the early period as a kind of identity whiplash. They know who they were before the accident. They know who they are supposed to be now. But the two selves don’t line up. Some say they feel like they’re wearing someone else’s face. Others feel betrayed by their own reflectio...
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Author in the News: Sharon Cole (Hazel and Olaf) interviewed for the Mission Village Voice

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  The Mission Village Voice has published a lovely and insightful interview with Sharon Cole ( Hazel and Olaf ): " California or Bust ." Book Description: They sold the farm, packed up seven children, and chased a promise called California. Based on Hazel’s journal, this true story follows a family that leaves Wisconsin hoping for relief from brutal winters—only to run out of money with hundreds of miles still to go. Stranded and desperate, they enter a world of labor camps, endless fieldwork, hunger, and exhaustion, where families are worked hard, paid little, and treated as disposable. Once respected and secure, they find themselves suddenly labeled vagrants. Pride becomes a liability. Dignity must be defended daily. And survival depends on grit, faith, and refusing to give up—especially for Hazel, who will not allow poverty to erase who she is or break her family apart. This is a raw, gripping true story of endurance, injustice, and a woman who stood her ground when every...
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Philosophy in a Technological Era: How vs Why

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  Technology answers “how.” Philosophy asks “why.” That contrast is more than a clever line—it’s the fault line running beneath our entire era. As machines grow faster, smarter, and more autonomous, the human responsibility to think deeply about purpose becomes not just important, but urgent. 🧭 The Age of “How” We live in a culture that worships efficiency. Every new tool promises to make something: faster automated optimized These are how questions — questions of method. They matter. They build bridges, cure diseases, and let us communicate across continents. But when how becomes the only question, society drifts toward a dangerous simplicity: if something can be built, it should be built. If something can be automated, it must be automated. If something can be optimized, it will be optimized. A civilization that only asks “how” becomes technically brilliant and spiritually hollow. 🧠 Philosophy Brings Back the “Why” Philosophy interrupts the momentum. It insists on stepping ba...
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Publisher's Pride: Books on Bestseller Lists - One Family Indivisible (Greenebaum)

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Today's Publisher's Pride is One Family Indivisible by Steven Greenebaum, which reached #54 in Unitary Universalism and #97 among Amazon top sellers in Christian ecumenism. Book Description: Throughout history we have divided ourselves into groupings of "us" and "them". One Family: Indivisible engagingly invites the reader into the deeply spiritual and lifelong journey of the author to find a way to acknowledge our differences without dividing and subdividing ourselves into competing tribes. It is a journey of mountain tops and deep valleys, but it leads to the inclusivity and mutual respect possible with Interfaith. This is a book for seekers of all races, ethnicities, and spiritual paths who search for that elusive goal of a community of love and inclusion that also respects our diversity. AWARDS Eric Hoffer Award Category Finalist, American Book Fest Best Books Award Finalist (religion) Keywords: interfaith, spiritual journey, common humanity, religious ...
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