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  This excerpt comes from   How My Cat Made Me a Better Man  by Jeremy Feig. RELATIONSHIPS Picking the right mate The turtle had all the qualities Shelly looked for in a mate: extreme softness, the perfect size, and the inability to turn her down. I don't know if she was actively seeking a partner like that or if she just found her Mr. Right. It can go either way. Think about what you look for in a woman (or in another guy, if that's your preference). A specific hair color? A good heart? A giant rack? In a perfect world, you'd find someone who fits all of your criteria. But it's not a perfect world, so you have to work with what's available. Even if a chick doesn't match your dream combo of blonde, brainy, and basketball fan, that doesn't mean she couldn't be the one for you. Don't focus on the traits your perfect woman must have. Your preconceived ideas are just those--ideas. If you're so hung up on them that you can't settle for anything le...

    This excerpt comes from  He's a Porn Addict...Now What?  (Overbay and Shea) Some people say I don't want him to disclose everything to me.  Are they correct?   Tony, the mental health professional: “I want to know everything you did” is one of those statements I hear regularly in my therapy sessions with couples. There is a modality of therapy where the husband and wife start putting out their truths. It's viewed as an emotional bid to be vulnerable. The idea is that they are sharing their heart with their partner, but it's done knowing that the other person loves and cares about them and wants to know their truth. So, there’s disclosure from the spouse and all of a sudden we're in this world known as betrayal trauma, where the wife is going back and trying to put everything together. This is the point at which I hear phrases like: “My whole marriage has been a sham,” or, “I can't trust anything he says or does now.” For the wife, it often becomes, “I w...

  This excerpt comes from  Helping the Disabled Veteran  (Joanna Romer) Legal Help   Your son Tommy came home from Afghanistan paralyzed, and you’re stymied on how to help him. He’s been living with you and your husband for over a year, and a good part of that time you’ve been trying to get a certain benefit that would help him and your family a great deal. Unfortunately, because of a supposed “hitch” in his service record, that particular benefit does not seem to be available. Tommy says the hitch is an error — but so far you’ve been unable to get it removed. Is there anything you can do? Yes, there is. Paralyzed Veterans of America is an organization that provides competent attorneys to assist in cases just like this. They have litigated hundreds of cases for veterans, helping them to get the benefits they need (Legal Services – Paralyzed Veterans of America). Veterans have the right to appeal to the U.S. Court of Appeals for Veterans Claims if their benefits reque...

    Excerpt from   Heart to Heart Resuscitation: My Journal  by Victor Montgomery III --   Second Pathway Another warrior came to a group meeting and said: "I always prided myself on my hardheadedness: survival of the fittest. The fact is I wasn’t superstitious or religious. I thought God as a higher power and spiritual things meant religion and that meant weird mystical thinking. I was too smart to believe in a power greater than me. What I started to realize was that if I was the greatest power in my life, I was in deep, deep trouble” − Mark, Iraqi war veteran. We came to believe that a power greater than ourselves can restore us to sanity. And those other veterans in the local community, who are struggling with the consequences of combat-related experiences, can come together with us and influence each other in a magnificent, life changing way. To survive this new battle, we seek meaning in having survived. We want to believe we have survived for a...