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  Avoiding Conflict or Rejection Emotions—especially uncomfortable ones—can disrupt harmony. People who value peace or fear aban donment often hide their feelings to avoid: arguments disapproval disappointing someone being misunderstood Silence becomes a shield. But shields are heavy, and carrying them long-term takes a toll. When we suppress emotion, we trade short-term calm for long-term strain. The body still feels what the voice refuses to say. Tension builds, relationships flatten, and authenticity erodes. What was meant to preserve peace ends up creating distance. Hidden feelings don’t disappear; they wait. They surface later as fatigue, resentment, or withdrawal. The very harmony we tried to protect begins to fracture under the weight of what’s unsaid. True peace doesn’t come from silence—it comes from safe honesty . When we express feelings respectfully, we invite understanding instead of conflict. When we trust others with our truth, we give them the chance to meet us with...

  Recently, Learning to Feel (Girrell), reached #196 on the Amazon bestseller list of psychologist biographies. Book Description:  Learning to Feel, Second Edition, teaches readers how to gain choice and authority over their emotional states. Feelings and emotions are reactions to the deeply held beliefs and experiences of our lives. In order to become fully emotionally intelligent - that is, to be able to know what is yours, what comes from the others, and how best to respond to those others - we must connect first to those core experiences and often re-interpret the meaning they have held for us. Learning to Feel is such a journey, intended to be a set of trail blazes for anyone who wishes to up their game in the realm of emotional intelligence. (Edition 1 was selected for the Independent Press Distinguished Favorite Award and a Literary Titan gold award.) First Edition Book Awards Literary Titan Gold Award Independent Press Award Distinguished Favorite/Psychology For more ...

Childhood abandonment leaves marks that time alone cannot erase. Whether a child loses one parent, the remaining parent, or both, the experience reshapes how they see themselves and the world. Yet, within that pain lies the potential for profound resilience — the kind that grows not from denial, but from healing. The Early Imprint When a parent disappears, a child’s developing mind often translates absence into self-blame. “If they left, I must not be worth staying for.” That quiet conclusion becomes the seed of shame, sprouting into adulthood as self‑doubt, perfectionism, or fear of rejection. The nervous system learns to stay on alert, scanning for signs of loss even in safe relationships. Abandonment also distorts attachment. Adults who grew up with it may swing between clinging and withdrawal, longing for closeness yet fearing it. Their bodies remember the ache of waiting for someone who never came. Degrees of Loss One parent’s absence can be survivable if the remaining caregiver ...

  Recently, Learning to Feel (Girrell), reached #196 on the Amazon bestseller list of psychologist biographies. Book Description:  Learning to Feel, Second Edition, teaches readers how to gain choice and authority over their emotional states. Feelings and emotions are reactions to the deeply held beliefs and experiences of our lives. In order to become fully emotionally intelligent - that is, to be able to know what is yours, what comes from the others, and how best to respond to those others - we must connect first to those core experiences and often re-interpret the meaning they have held for us. Learning to Feel is such a journey, intended to be a set of trail blazes for anyone who wishes to up their game in the realm of emotional intelligence. (Edition 1 was selected for the Independent Press Distinguished Favorite Award and a Literary Titan gold award.) First Edition Book Awards Literary Titan Gold Award Independent Press Award Distinguished Favorite/Psychology For more ...