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excerpt from  He's a Porn Addict...Now What?  by Tony Overbay and Joshua Shea Introduction This book is a unique collaboration between a mental health professional, Tony Overbay, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Joshua Shea, a former journalist who spent more than two decades struggling with pornography addiction. Usually, the expert sitting in the chair and the person on the couch getting the help don’t work together on a project outside of the therapist’s office, but we think this is a natural match. (And for those wondering, Josh was never Tony’s client—they met on a podcast.) Tony spends dozens of hours every week working with couples who are at various stages of the therapy process. Many of these couples have struggled with pornography issues. Although you’re probably feeling alone in the world right now, you are not. Tony has dealt with women, men and couples who are going through exactly what you are experiencing. Josh was a pillar of his community whe...

  Most addictions don’t begin with a dramatic moment. They begin quietly, in the margins of a life that otherwise looks functional. Porn addiction is no different. In fact, its very invisibility is part of what makes it so difficult to acknowledge, even privately. Admitting a problem to another person is one thing. Admitting it to yourself is something far more intimate. It requires looking directly at the gap between who you believe you are and what you’re actually doing. That gap can feel like a chasm. Here are some of the forces that make self‑recognition so hard. 1. Porn Is Framed as “Normal,” So Overuse Feels Easy to Rationalize Porn is widely accessible, socially ubiquitous, and often treated as harmless entertainment. That cultural framing gives the brain endless material for self‑negotiation: Everyone does it. It’s not like drugs or alcohol. It’s private—who is it hurting? When something is normalized, it becomes harder to see when your relationship with it has sl...

  Today's Publisher's Pride is  He's a Porn Addict...Now What?  by Tony Overbay and Joshua Shea , which reached  #95 in sexual addiction & recovery and #121 in sexual health recovery on Amazon . Book description: Admitting you're a drug addict or alcoholic can be difficult, but when it comes to pornography addiction, the pain of betrayal can hit the addict's partner worse than the addict himself. Difficult questions come rushing: Does he look at this stuff because I'm not enough? Was he like this when I first met him? Is this God trying to test me? What kind of help is available for him? Am I just supposed to stay here and deal with this? With  He's a Porn Addict...Now What?: An Expert and a Former Addict Answer Your Questions , you'll get pertinent answers from both sides of the equation: from a therapist and from a former pornography addict. Keywords: porn addiction, recovery and healing, spouse and partner support, betrayal trauma, sexual addictio...