Midlife Dating Chronicles, Episode Ten: How to Tell If You Actually Like Them or Just Like the Attention
In your 20s, you assumed every flutter was attraction. In midlife, you know better. You’ve lived long enough to recognize that sometimes you’re not drawn to the person —you’re drawn to the feeling of being wanted, noticed, or admired. And honestly? There’s no shame in that. But it’s helpful to know the difference before you accidentally end up in a relationship with someone you only like when they’re complimenting you. Here’s how to tell what’s really going on. 1. You Love Their Messages… But Not Them If your heart leaps when your phone buzzes, but sinks when you actually read what they wrote, that’s a clue. You might be enjoying: The dopamine hit The sense of being desired The novelty of someone paying attention But if the content of the message makes you shrug, cringe, or feel nothing, it’s not them you like. It’s the ping . 2. You Look Forward to the Compliments, Not the Conversation Do you replay the sweet things they said? Or do you replay the actual con...