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Insecure Attachment  A child is born completely helpless, dependent on his parents for survival. He cannot feed, clothe, or shelter himself. His parents care for his every need, not only his biological needs but especially his emotional ones. Without love and affection, a child cannot thrive and grow to emotional maturity. Because of his utter helplessness and dependence on his caregivers, a child is hard-wired, like other animals, to form an attachment bond with his parents. That bond keeps the child emotionally engaged with the parents and elicits their nurturing. Parenting is a fine art, more an art than a science, requiring maturity, wisdom, and generosity. It requires maintaining a fine balance between many opposing behaviors. It is like keeping a violin string at just the right tension to produce beautiful music, neither too loose nor too tight. In the midst of change, parents need to guide their children by being neither too strict nor too lax. Children require calm dire

  Most patients who end up at the end of life, from cancer or otherwise, experience anxiety and restlessness. Typically, medications are given to help with both of these conditions. Ironically, Carl's last days were very peaceful although he suffered from restless leg syndrome for many years (it disappeared as he entered his final month of life -- probably NOT common). To understand the differences, here are accepted definitions: Anxiety  An abnormal and overwhelming sense of apprehension and fear often marked by physical signs (such as tension, sweating, and increased pulse rate), by doubt concerning the reality and nature of the threat, and by self-doubt about one's capacity to cope with it.  Use words of encouragement and remind them that a panic attack can never harm them and that nothing is physically wrong with them. This is because many people will assume they're having a stroke, or even dying. Reminding them that they are physically okay can help. Typically when so

  Excerpt from Anxiety Anonymous -  Steps to Wholeness Appreciating the addictive quality of anxiety may open the door to a different way of finding relief and enable you to be more patient with yourself. Conventional therapy has been limited in helping because it does not reach to the deeper roots of anxiety in the human psyche. Therapy, including medication, addresses the symptoms and not the underlying cause in the human condition. In the 1930s, it became clear that psychology had failed in treating alcoholics. Carl Jung, the renowned Swiss psychologist, announced the failure and the need for a spiritual conversion. He called alcoholics “frustrated mystics” who looked for the Spirit in the spirits. Bill Wilson, a hopeless alcoholic, found recovery outside the walls of traditional psychological treatment. He and Dr. Bob Smith founded the fellowship of Alcoholics Anonymous and formulated the Twelve Steps as the guideposts of recovery. They realized from personal experience that only

  In her most recent blog post, Diana Keathley, author of the award-winning book, GodSway , writes: I know someone who lives nearby who struggles with anxiety. We all do to a certain extent. That is, we all deal with anxiety to one degree or another… and, many of us know someone who suffers greatly from it. I myself have as well. This young man is handsome, intelligent, gentle, loving, very talented musically, and funny. He believes in God and knows that Jesus is His Son. I’m actually very fond of the man. Yet I’ve watched him go through a number of phases of dependency in his efforts to deal with the anxiety – from vodka to marijuana, from prescription anxiety meds back to medical marijuana. Truth is, he is much the same, at least from outward observations, as he was a decade ago – except ten years older – still stuck, paralyzed with fear about a variety of issues: working, how to begin looking for a job, what kind of job, how to explain why he hasn’t been working, loss of faith and i

    Excerpt from The Pandemic and Hope by Dr. Dennis Ortman -- PROLOGUE “There is no fear in love, for perfect love casts out fear.” I John 4:18 The Coronavirus has swept across the earth, not respecting national borders. It is truly a universal, global event. No social class is immune: the old and the young, the rich and the poor. The death toll rises each day. Its numbers are in the tens of thousands. Government leaders around the world are mobilizing their forces to fight this invisible enemy. COVID-19 has become a common enemy, surprisingly uniting countries with hostile relationships. Indeed, the media mantra rings true:”We are all in this together.” It appears to me that we are facing two invisible enemies: the Coronavirus and the fear virus. Both are equally pernicious and contagious in their own ways. The Coronavirus can kill the body. Fear can destroy our mental/emotional and spiritual wellbeing. It can lead to despair, and even suicide. We are witnessing today a worl

  In anticipation of the increasing sunniness of spring and the hope that such weather brings, we include here an excerpt from Dr. Dennis Ortman's book, The Pandemic and Hope . BREAKING BAD, MAKING GOOD How can we overcome the grip of our fears and let our natural light shine? It is a matter of breaking a bad habit of negative thinking and acting. Just as an alcoholic can have urges and still not drink, we can have anxious reactions and not indulge them. We have a choice to live with unavoidable anxiety or depression. If we refuse to change and grow, we will become depressed with a sense of a wasted life. If we want to mature, we will move out of our comfort zone and inevitably feel anxious. But in taking the risk and succeeding, we will grow in self-confidence, creating a larger comfort zone. So we choose our poison: growth-inhibiting depression or life-enhancing anxiety. Overcoming the bad habit of an anxiety-driven life involves four steps, requiring insight, courage, and persev

  Excerpt from Anxiety Anonymous Déjà Vu All Over Again All addictions begin with “stinking thinking.” After many experiences of the soothing effects of alcohol, a tranquilizer, the budding alcoholic begins to believe that she can find happiness in a bottle and cannot live without it. She continually tells herself, “I need a drink,” whether she is anxious, sad, angry, or happy. She rationalizes many reasons for drinking. Over time, as the addiction takes hold, she becomes more preoccupied with the thought of drinking. It becomes her obsession. She begins to plan her life around drinking opportunities on weekends with friends or at home alone to chill out. Her obsession with drinking spills over into compulsive behaviors. She develops drinking routines, going to the same bar every Friday evening, meeting the same people. Cocktail hour, with the same drink, mixed in the same way, happens every day at precisely 4:00 p.m. She may make rigid rules for herself to assure herself that she is n

 : Excerpt from Mental Health Mayday (G. Bagdade) - WORKING WITH A COUNSELOR “I’m fixing a hole where the rain gets in, and stops my mind from wandering.” (Lennon & McCartney, 1967) When I started my Bachelor’s program at Penn State, I was well aware that I would have difficulty in the whole process of going back to school. Finding time to write papers, studying terms on notecards, this jaunt back to academia was enough to keep a large supply of Excedrin Migraine on hand, for sure! I remember during my first semester my wife told me to take classes that I would enjoy. So, I signed up for Humans as Primates because I always had an affinity for animals and the fossil record. When the class was completed, I ran to the nearest computer to reveal my impending score. Being a C+ student my whole scholastic career, I was expecting to follow suit in my old ways. A few keystrokes later and… all A’s?! My brain could barely comprehend the information my eyes were filtering in. Kismet has a wa