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  from  Divorced! Survival Techniques for Singles over Forty  (Romer)        Self-Nurturing   You’ve had a rough day battling challenges at your job, perhaps some unexpected financial upsets and the usual tumult of traffic, weather and never enough time. Lurking behind these everyday occurrences is the hurt and confusion of dealing with your divorce. What do you do? Should you bolster a stiff upper lip, swallow your feelings and continue your work, whatever it may be? No, not necessarily. The newly divorced person, like the newly bereaved, needs special handling. That inner child in you is still confused about all the pain you’re going through—it (and you) deserves some coddling. How do we comfort ourselves when we know that comforting and pampering are exactly what we need? It’s not hard—the only difficult part is allowing ourselves those moments of self indulgence. Self-nurturing is a must for the newly divorced person, but it’s an activity...

from  Divorced! Survival Techniques for Singles over Forty  (Romer)   Feeling Abandoned   There you are, facing your first Christmas alone—ever. You’ve always had someone around at the holidays—first your parents and siblings, later on your spouse and your own children—but this year, things are different. Your wife left you in August and you haven’t really had the heart to hook up with anyone else yet. Both your parents are long gone and your only sister lives 3,000 miles away, with her own family to take care of. What should you do? There’s a big part of you right now that feels like a motherless child, totally abandoned. Maybe you feel rejected, unattractive, or unworthy of love. These are all feelings that society places on people who are the “victims” of divorce, and they have nothing to do with who you really are. This is not a place where you want to remain for very long. Once you erase the perception of yourself as being abandoned by your ex-spouse, a lot...

  from  Divorced! Survival Techniques for Singles over Forty  (Romer)   DAVID “DOC” ROBERTS                       “The door is always open. Every day is a new venture.”                               One of the kindest people I know is a tall, good-looking man who answers to the name of “Doc” Roberts. Doc has an easy-going way about him that reassures people, but he’s come by his composure through a long road of struggle. A veteran of three divorces, 58-year old Doc now focuses his efforts on helping other people get through life. His first marriage lasted only nine months. “I had just gotten out of the service,” he told me, “and nobody would hire me because of my disabilities [from the service]. I finally got into selling clothing.” Doc said his marriage to Debbie was pretty much based...