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  Awesome Couple Communication resulted from one of those unusual situations in which the publisher saw a gap in the literature and suggested to Dr. Patt Pickett, also author of the multi-award-winning book, The Marriage Whisperer , that she might expand one very helpful and insightful (indeed, brilliant) section of The Marriage Whisperer into a book in its own right. She did, and Awesome Couple Communication is the outcome. And here is a description of the outcome (book): A spin-off of "Dr. Patt's" award-winning book,  The Marriage Whisperer ,  Awesome Couple Communication  presents In simple, jargon-free language and with clear examples,14 couples with communication challenges. Dr. Patt describes the source of the miscommunication and presents suggestions for other couples in similar circumstances to follow in moving from awful communication to the awesome communication level. Calling upon Emotional Intelligence Theory and her own "Pickett's Pyramid of Possi...

  Excerpt from Awesome Couple Communication Always Exit with Words  Martin and Tina cannot end arguments successfully. When he is finished and says all he needs to say, Tina keeps going and going like a peachy pink rabbit, marching and pounding a kettle drum. Martin claims she is crazy, driven to repeat herself. Tina describes the scene as Martin huffing and puffing and blowing out of the room without a word. She is left feeling abandoned and hopeless, so she follows him around the house like a little lost puppy; that way, at least, he will throw her a meaty bone of an answer. Tina feels unimportant to Martin. Rarely does the couple agree on when or how to end an argument. Worst of all for her, when he is finished and leaves, Tina doesn’t get the closure she needs. Couples in conflict commonly differ in their sense of when an argument begins and when it is resolved. Realistically, since it takes two to tangle, it “ain’t” over until both people harmonize. There are individuals...

As we get ready to submit some of our great authors' works to the Eric Hoffer Book Award competition, we remember and celebrate those who have won in the past. Road to Damascus by Elaine Imady was the first runner-up in the legacy category last year. The Marriage Whisperer by Patt Pickett received an honorable mention. Both books, while quite different from each other, are very special, very good, and well worth the time invested in reading them.

Top Five Communication Points 1. Being a good communicator in a work setting or among friends is not evidence you communicate well in your intimate relationships. We stumble through mood upheaval and drama in our personal communications. A higher level of emotion is present and shapes our communication. You are entitled to express, “That’s not what I understood,” but how can you seriously claim to know “that’s not what you meant” when your partner says it is. 2. While you (or the other) can provide excellent or better audiorecall of the precise words spoken, it does not mean you are a better communicator than your partner. You have a more detailed recall; that’s it. Your recall is not the same as having an accurate understanding; communication is about understanding. 3. Forget hooking up with an official source to “prove” what the other person meant with the words he chose. The dictionary does not interpret or dictate personal meaning. 4. In conversation, meaning is put in...