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The Relationship Between Anger and Suicide

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We often think of suicide as the final act of despair — a collapse into hopelessness, a quiet surrender. But sometimes, it’s not quiet at all. Sometimes, it’s fueled by rage. Anger and suicide may seem like emotional opposites. One explodes outward; the other implodes. But research shows they’re more connected than we think. Anger — especially when chronic, internalized, or unexpressed — can be a powerful risk factor for suicidal thoughts and behaviors. How Anger Contributes to Suicide Risk Angry temperament : A persistent tendency to feel and express anger, even without clear provocation, is linked to suicidal ideation — independent of depression. Internalized anger : When anger is turned inward, it can become self-loathing, guilt, or shame — emotional states that erode self-worth. Erosion of social support : Chronic anger can push people away, leaving the person feeling isolated and burdensome — key ingredients in the interpersonal theory of suicide. Impulsivity and emotion dy...

Publisher's Pride: Books on Bestseller Lists - Anger Anonymous (Ortman)

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  Today's publisher's pride is   Anger Anonymous  by Dr. Dennis Ortment, which reached #85 on Amazon's bestseller ranking for anger management self-help. Book description: When you feel in the grip of anger, ask yourself these questions: -Do you feel powerless to control your temper? -Does your anger frighten you so much that you feel compelled to suppress it? -Does your life feel unmanageable because of your anger? -Does your preoccupation with the unfairness of life and being wronged interfere with your happiness? -Do you feel hopeless about finding a cure for your temper? If you answer "yes" to these questions, you may be addicted to your anger. It acts like a drug that stimulates you, energizes you, and causes you to act insanely. Viewing your anger as an addiction, Dr. Ortman guides you through the time-tested Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous to find healing and growth. He shows how the Steps offer practical wisdom to use the natural energy of your anger ...

Cancer Diary: BURNOUT! REMORSE! GRIEF!

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  Cancer, like other debilitating illnesses, require immense effort from those taking care of the cancer-stricken patient. This effort can be redoubled and accompanied by a range of personally invested emotions when the caregiver is a relative, particularly a spouse. Cleveland Clinic says"  Caregiver burnout is a state of physical, emotional and mental exhaustion that happens while you’re taking care of someone else. Stressed caregivers may experience fatigue, anxiety and depression.      To that, I would add anger -- followed by remorse. In waves and cycles. Never feeling good about yourself. And then feeling guilty from the sense of relief after the cancer-stricken relative dies. Being able to understand oneself and forgive oneself can lead to stabilization and at least some aspect of comfort (unfortunately, often months after the patient has died). This article can help wtih the understanding and forgiving part:  Caregiver Burnout: What It Is, Signs Yo...

From the Blog Posts of MSI Press Authors: On Getting Triggered (Julia Aziz)

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  The following post comes from Jula Aziz, author of Lessons of Labor -- On getting triggered: Anger, guilt, blame, and the feelings we don’t want to feel OCTOBER 24, 2023  /  JULIA AZIZ I’m curious, who showed you how to feel and process anger in a healthy way? (Just kidding, that’s not a fair question!) Depending on our background, we may have learned to numb or suppress negative emotions, beat ourselves up, or lash out, but it’s pretty rare for an adult reading this today to have grown up in an environment that modeled well how to work with feelings like anger, guilt, shame, or fear. It’s something we as a species are still learning. We continue to trigger negative emotions in each other all the time though–that’s just being human and living in society with other humans. Part of growing into adulthood is learning how to respect what we feel while also respecting other people’s experience, and while that may sound extremely basic, it’s often extremely missing. You...

Cancer Diary: Sleep Deprivation and Seeing Red

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  In one Star Trek episode, the crew cannot enter REM sleep -- and as a result, violence emergences. That episode is based on scientific research. And it explains a lot about caregiver burnout  and anger . When a spouse or other family member suffers from cancer, needs for care do not occur only during waking hours. Often, it feels like 24/7, and a family member who serves as caregiver can find himself or herself unable to react calmly in the face of chaos and immense stress . Sleep provides a time to renew emotional balance. Sleep deprivation leads to deprivation of balance, calm, perspective--and ultimately, emotional control. Here are some details about the relationship between sleep deprivation and anger  from the National Institute of Health. Here are some details about the relationship between sleep and mood from Harvard University research. And here is some evidence of the relationship between anger, aggression, hostility, and sleep deprivation , also from NIH....