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Carl frequently complained of being cold during the last two months of living/dying with cancer. Even with the heat at, for me an uncomfortable, 72 degrees (when we typically maintain it at a comfortable 66 degrees). Even when wearing a sweater or even something heavier and smothered in blankets. He was always complaining about being cold, and only after he died did I find out why -- and that he really was very cold because body temperature drops when someone is dying. We were constantly struggling over how to compromise on temperature. My son and I were extremely uncomfortable with the amount of heat Carl would set the thermostat for, as well as having concerns with the cost of the amount of gas needed to keep the house so hot (dying can create immense financial stress -- a topic Cancer Diary will address in the future).  In general, cold registered for me, having grown up in Maine and having spent a few winters in Siberia, pictured above, on a very different scale from the perce...

Excerpt from  Clean Your Plate!  (Bayardelle)  -   Chapter 1 Do You Need Any Money?   The trope of Mom or Dad being a child’s ATM has gotten so common it’s not even a funny Internet meme anymore. (And if you’re at all familiar with the Internet, that’s really saying something.) Every parent knows that it’s probably bad just to hand their kid money whenever they want something, but that doesn’t mean we’re actually good at resisting the urge to do just that when the situation arises.  Why We Say It  If it helps assuage your parental guilt at all, this isn’t a bad impulse to have. You’ve spent the entirety of your child’s life trying to provide for all their needs, even trying to anticipate your child’s needs before they even occur so your little kidlet doesn’t have to want for anything. Do any of you moms out there have a purse whose sheer heft equals your body weight due to the abundance of granola bars, spare socks, and just in case t...

  excerpt from Exercising in a Pandemic   by Pat Young:  (note: good information for any time where opportunities are limited)  Healthy Advantages             A leading medical journal, Lancet, states that people who are physically active have only 35 days of poor mental health per year on average, compared to those who are not physically active, who have closer to 53 down days.             Another medical establishment, Nuvance Health, states that exercise boosts the immune system and keeps it functioning optimally. This is certainly an advantage during a pandemic such as the corona virus outbreak. Exercise reduces stress, prevents weight gain and improves sleep. Many exercise enthusiasts say they are actually energized after a workout. Exercising also offers the opportunity to enjoy social activities, something curtailed by pandemic safety precautions...

Receiving a cancer diagnosis is life-altering. It’s natural to feel overwhelmed, scared, and uncertain about the road ahead. While every journey is unique, there are several immediate steps you can take to prepare for the challenges and decisions that lie ahead. Here are some key actions to consider: 1. Understand Your Diagnosis Knowledge is power. Make sure you fully understand your diagnosis, including the type of cancer, stage, and potential treatment options. Ask your doctor questions such as: What type of cancer do I have? What stage is it, and what does that mean for my treatment? What treatment options are available to me? What are the potential side effects and risks? What is the expected timeline for treatment? Consider bringing a trusted friend or family member to appointments to help take notes and ask additional questions. 2. Find the Right Medical Team Choosing the right oncologist and medical team is crucial. Seek second opinions if necessary and look for a hospital or tr...

I've been getting to know Tony, our new mail carrier. Though his day job takes up most of his energy, his passion is screenwriting, and he recently enrolled in a screenwriting course at the nearby community college. His ideas are beautiful, like a Pixar version of why bad things happen to good people. What he went through as a kid made him into a mystic, and he wants to offer hope for young people that are struggling. Tony and I originally connected because a Sports Illustrated had been mistakenly delivered to my house. I was on my way to walk it over to the neighbor’s house when I met up with him. Tony later told me he was afraid I was going to yell at him since that was how residents often approached. He was very surprised when I came up to him with an easygoing manner, and he wanted to know why I was like that. Now the fact that friendliness is an anomaly is something to think about in and of itself. But more importantly, we've got to stop yelling at the...

  I have recently found that can be helpful when "round-up" information is desired. I do not have to do all the research, take the time, and maybe miss important things. It is also useful to see how AI summarizes the concepts (though, of course, if I were to make a presentation on the topic, I would likely summarize and expand differently). Here, for example, is a conversation I had with co-pilot (MS AI) that MSI Press Cancer Diary posts readers might find helpful/interesting: You Can you provide me with a definition of anticipatory grief? Copilot Anticipatory  grief  is  the  emotional  pain  and  mourning  experienced  when  anticipating  the  loss  of  a  loved  one.  This  type  of  grief  often  arises  when  someone  is  diagnosed  with  a  terminal  illness  or  when  death  is  imminent.  It ...