Precerpt from My 20th Language - 🦎 The Cultural Chameleon: Beyond “Gee Whiz” Culture

Jim Bernhardt of the U.S. Department of State once coined the term “gee whiz culture” to describe the kind of cultural content most language programs teach—curious customs like Day of the Dead or quirky etiquette rules. These are fascinating, yes. But they’re not enough.

For real language users—even those with modest proficiency—acquiring culture is as vital as acquiring grammar. How people speak and how they behave are inseparable. Without the cultural component, no matter how fluent you are, you’ll still be perceived as a foreigner.

🧬 What Does It Mean to “Acquire Culture”?

It’s not about memorizing holidays or historical timelines. It’s about absorbing the unspoken rhythms of a people. It’s about knowing when to speak, when to pause, how to gesture, how to sit, how to blush.

It’s about comfort, not just competence.

I’ve been called a cultural chameleon. Not because I know everything about every culture I’ve lived in—but because I’ve learned to move within them naturally.

🥘 Arabic: Akhti

I knew I’d made the cut in Arabic culture when a group of Arabic teachers I supervised invited me to lunch. They brought the meal, and we sat around the table, eating and talking. I ate with my hands, just like everyone else—something that had become second nature after three years in the Middle East.

One teacher suddenly realized they hadn’t brought me any silverware. The senior teacher, reacting, said, “Akhti!” Auntie. You’re one of us.

🔥 Russian: Blushing and Banya

I knew I’d made the cut in Russian culture when a friend made a sexually provocative comment—and I turned red. “You’re one of us,” she reacted, “Foreigners don’t blush at this.”

But the real test came in Siberia. I was sick, and the regional minister of education suggested a banya, a bathhouse with steam room and communal bathing space, to “steam out the bronchitis.” So, the whole staff went. And there we sat—totally naked, having a staff meeting. (In a Russian banya, you can cover your hair with a kosinka, a small triangular kerchief, but nothing else remains.)

A stretch? Absolutely. Did anyone notice? Not at all. Cultural chameleon, reporting for duty.

🧭 The Real Marker of Belonging

Cultural chameleon status isn’t earned by knowing everything. It’s earned by moving comfortably within the unspoken norms—by blending in not through mimicry but through ease.

It’s not about passing a test. It’s about passing unnoticed.

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