Daily Excerpt: Seeking Balance in an Unbalanced Time (Greenebaum) - Doing for Others: What I Can Do with the Cards I Have Been Dealt

 


Excerpt from Seeking Balance in an Unbalanced Time:

I love and salute [my wonderful] dedicated friends [who do many things of value for others]. However, the truth of it is, I don’t hold the same cards they do. I’m seventy-two, with a heart condition (I’ve had triple bypass surgery) and have just come off my third (successful!) battle with cancer. I don’t have a lot of energy right now. On top of that, I have arthritis in both my hands that severely limits what I can do. As an example, my driving is limited, and while I used to help out at the food bank, that’s off the table as well. But what I truly want to stress is that what is important is not what I can’t do, but what I can. I love my friends. I admire my friends, and all my brothers and sisters in my home city, as well as my state, as well as my country, as well as my planet, who are able to do so many things that I can’t and are doing them! Still, I have no interest in spending time regretting what I can’t do. The question is always, what can I do?

            For one thing, I can write with a modest amount of coherence. So, I can write this book, all royalties for which will go to charity.

What else can I do? I’m retired, widowed, and without children – so my financial needs are not huge. I can and do make continuing contributions to charities that are particularly stressed in this time of need – with most of those contributions going to local, state, and worldwide food and health organizations (as examples: the “Nourishing Network”, my local school district’s lunch program while school is no longer in session; “Northwest Harvest” which works to provide food for people in Washington; and “Doctors Without Borders” which works worldwide to deal with health issues, be they food, medical or other). This I can do.

More than that, at my age I’ve met a lot of people. I have a pretty extensive phonebook. I can call people I know, even if I haven’t spoken to them in a while (or even a long while!) and catch up. A lot of us are feeling intensely isolated. A phone call is a wonderful way to reach out. And even though I’m pretty much of an introvert, I can pick up the flaming phone and call people. That I can do.

One thing I’ve learned that I’d like to pass along is that if we truly ask how someone is, if we’re truly interested in how they are doing, they will tell us. I’ve had hour-long conversations with folks where I’ve mostly listened.

            A quick sharing of an observation. Our culture spends very little time teaching us how to listen. Much too often, it seems that we tend to think of conversations as a game of ping-pong. You whack the ball to my side. I whack it back to yours. Then you whack it back to mine. This can make for a good match, but I’m not convinced that it makes for a good conversation. As a simple example, let’s imagine you say “I saw a movie last night. Son of X.” If my reply is, “I didn’t have a chance to watch a movie last night. I was too busy.” then the ping-pong match is on. But let’s imagine that instead I say, “Son of X. I don’t think I know that film. Did you like it? Tell me about it.” Now, instead of a ping-pong match, we actually have at least the beginning of a conversation. All this to suggest not only that we call people, but that we truly reach out to folks and have conversations. And for me, the foundation of a good conversation is listening.

            These are things that I can do. They happen to be the cards I have. I’m offering them simply as examples. What’s important is for each of us to examine our own cards and then act to play those cards in the most positive way we can.


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For more posts about Steven Greenebaum, click HERE.


         

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