Daily Excerpt: A Movie Lover's Search for Romance (Charnas) - Introduction

 



Excerpt from A Mo vie Lover's Search for Romance -

INTRODUCTION 

This book recalls my search for love in my forties and fifties. For several years after my divorce at forty-one, my love life was slim to none. I focused on my career, buying my first home, and settling into it. I dated sporadically, but none of the men I went out with were particularly memorable. I didn’t care. My love life wasn’t my priority. I went to work and to the movies, and I was fine. Then, I saw The Pianist in late 2002, and the performance of Adrian Brody as the main character awakened something in me. My crazy post-divorce, romantic life began with that film.

Movies and men became the focus of my wild middle-age dating life. Initially, I fell sway to three ridiculous crushes: first, Adrien Brody; next, my father’s friend, twenty-five years my senior; and finally, my Adonis-like washing machine repairman. As I pondered these crushes, they reminded me of scenes and characters from the thousands of movies I’d watched obsessively since starting high school. The movies provided a frame of reference for the jumble of emotions and events I experienced.

Then, after a three-year, post-divorce dry spell, my love life suddenly and inexplicably took off. I dated a spectacular array of romantic prospects, including an Orthodox Jew, a recent Iranian immigrant, a severely disabled man, and a man sixteen years younger than me who badly wanted in my pants. I opened myself to any reasonable option, trying to understand what I wanted from a partner. I looked to the movies for guidance and succor with each new adventure.  Cinema was my touchstone, and, unlike men, movies rarely let me down.

As months passed, I reflected on larger issues: whether to remain friends with romantic rejects, how I felt about television advertisements for erectile dysfunction medications shown during the dinner hour, and the world of all matters kinky. I considered my previous experiences with these issues and reviewed cinematic references, such as 1978’s Coming Home, a film that depicts the complications of relationships, sex, and paraplegia. Afterward, I resolved not to befriend my ex-boyfriends, to be open to sexual adventure, and to live in hope that the networks would stop running ads for ED medications at six o’clock.

After dating enough eager men to populate a baseball lineup, I consider the effects of my newly slimmed body and recently discovered hotness, as well as the downfall of being smart and verbal in the dating world.

As I drew closer to finding a mate, the vicissitudes of dating became increasingly wearing. I once found myself crying for days when a second date didn’t transpire. At times, I thought I’d lost my mind. While still referring to movies and taking comfort and guidance from them, their ability to soothe me waned.

Then I met Simon. He was everything I wanted and more, until he wasn’t. After five years, our relationship ended. Once again—now at age fifty—I renewed my search for love with confidence and movies to guide me.

After I broke up with Simon, I needed a hiatus from dating. But a year after we parted, my romantic life exploded again. I felt I was in some throwback to adolescence although, as one friend observed, adolescent dating never looked like my adult love life. I thought back to my dating experiences after my divorce and culled whatever wisdom I could from them. I repeated some old mistakes, made new ones, and continued to learn what I wanted from romance, always looking to the movies for references and solace, my lifelong habit.

I hope this book’s readers will relate to my experiences and find comfort knowing they are not alone in their quest for love. I also hope they unders

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tand that art, in film or in myriad other forms, can provide a touchstone and comfort. My wish is that readers will laugh along with me as they share in my adventures, successes, and lessons learned. 

A Movie Lover's Search for Romance has won the following awards:
Hollywood Book Festival Honorable Mention
Book Excellence Award

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