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Excerpt from Courageous Parenting : Rules, Routine and Structure In a household characterized by a lack of rules, binding routine, or clear assignation of responsibilities, stopping deterioration in the parent-child relationship is very difficult. Parents and children alike find nothing to hold on to. How do you start creating order and structure when you are used to everything being vague and fluid? Many parents who followed our program were surprised to discover that order is a process that expands and spreads the moment you create a clear core that allows it to grow. It is like the formation of crystals in a liquid solution; sometimes, it suffices to introduce an initial crystallizing element for the liquid matter to start arranging itself, attaching, and forming a structure. Sometimes, the initial spark that sets the whole process in motion is the parents drawing a red line concerning one unacceptable behavior. The parents decide and announce the unacceptable behavior they

A nice review of Courageous Parents by Dr. Haim Omer was posted recently by Readers Favorite . "These suggestions can be used by counselors, therapists, psychologists, parents, and educators when tackling issues between parents and children in a mature and peaceful way." To read the full review, click HERE .  The Readers' Favorite book critique rated Courageous Parents a 5 (top level) on all elements: appearance, plot, development, formatting, marketability, and overall opinion. Click HERE for the details. To read more posts by and about Haim and his book, click HERE .

In a  current and a coming post, Dr. Haim Omer describes an adaptation of the new authority to kindergartens .  (The new authority is the core of his book, Courageous Parents.) This is part of a series about the new authority and anchoring function in early childhood -- how to resolve the most difficult problems that parents encounter with their children.  Read more about Dr. Omer and his book, Courageous Parents, HERE .

The continuity principle: How parents, teachers and social leaders can help children in times of Corona This post was written together with Dr. Rina Omer The continuity principle is a unified concept for coping with disaster and trauma formulated at the time of the First Golf War. Based on a review of the literature (Omer, 1991) the principle of continuity stipulated that "during crisis and disaster , one should aim at preserving and restoring functional, interpersonal and personal continuities, at the individual, family, organization and community levels." Functional continuity is the ability to go on functioning in spite of disturbances. Interpersonal continuity refers to the maintenance of contacts with family, friends, colleagues and any other circles to which one belongs. Personal continuity refers to feelings of sameness and coherence in our sense of self. For instance: for a 10-year old boy, functional continuity will comprise routines such getting-u

The pent-up expectation has become availability: Dr. Haim Omer's much-awaited book, Courageous Parents , was released today! Just what today's modern parents need! The book is available from MSI Press webstore , Amazon , Barnes & Noble , other online booksellers. Brick and mortar stores can acquire the book. Read posts by and about this world-famous parenting expert from Israel HERE .

Dr. Haim Omer has alerted us to a new post of interest to parents: You're invited to read my new post "Some vital questions about our children's safety"  https://www.haimomer-nvr.com/post/some-vital-questions-about-our-children-s-safety .  This is the first in a series of posts designed to help parents exercise "vigilant care".  This is the parental attitude of keeping an ear to the ground, of creating the appropriate feeling that the child is accompanied by the parents.  Vigilant care has all the advantages and none of the disadvantages of "parental monitoring".  Whenever I lecture on my approach, I tell the people in the audience that if they want to keep one idea, one single tip of my approach, than it is that parents should learn how to exercise vigilant care.  This and the upcoming posts aim at helping parents foster this attitude.   Dr. Omer is the author of the forthcoming book, Courageous Parents . Available on pre-order f

Along the years I've received requests for help from parents of children from the age of 3 to 62! Actually, in the case of the 62-year old "child", not the parents, but his sisters came for help, asking how they could protect their old and frail parents from blackmail, exploitation and abuse. Read the rest of the post HERE . Haim Omer is author of Courageous Parents .

Congratulation to Haim Omer for a very nice review of Courageous Parents by US Review of Books. According to the reviewer, " This is an extremely well-written book, offering advice that is clear, easy to understand, and well-attuned to the everyday realities of parenting. Omer provides practical suggestions on an impressive breadth of issues." Read the whole review HERE . Read more posts by and about Haim and his book HERE .

Parenting has its joys; it can also be demanding when all does not go as planned or hoped, as in this picture of parents with their son and two emergency room specialists, raising up (literally) their physically challenged daughter. MSI Press offers several unique books on parenting--for the everyday difficulties and the unique challenges. Take a look! 3 65 Teacher Secrets for Parent s by Cindy McKinley and Patti Trombly See posts by and about Cindy and Patti, including book excerpts, HERE . Courageous Parents   by Dr. Haim Omer Read posts by and about Dr. Omer, including book excerpts, HERE . How to Be a Good Mommy When You're Sick by Dr. Emily Graves Read posts by and about Dr. Graves, including book excerpts, HERE . Lessons of Labor by Julia Aziz See posts by and about Jula Aziz, including book excerpts,  HERE . Life after Losing a Child by Pat Young and Joanna Romer See posts by and about Pat  and Joanna. Noah's New Puppy by Richard R

Most children are naturally possessive and territorial. Shouts of "Don't touch my things!" "It's my money!" "Get out of my room!" are part of the daily soundtrack in many families. As the child grows, he has to learn that there are acceptable and unacceptable ways of clinging to what's his own. For instance, he has to learn that others also have a right to their property. He has to learn how to share. And he has to learn not to use his things in damaging ways. Many parents come to us because their children (whatever their age – the oldest "child" whose parents we treated was 62!) abuse their computer, their room and their money. Read the rest of the post HERE . Dr. Omer is the author of Courageous Parents .

Dr. Haim Omer, advocate of non-violent resistance and parenting expert, provides the following information about how to develop self-control in children. With everyone home these days, it seems like a good time to work on this -- and perhaps a necessary thing to do. Many parents said this is the best tip they received on how to develop self-control. The meaning is that the parent does not have to react immediately when the child provokes them or makes demands. On the contrary, reacting later is usually much better. The reasons are many: reacting later allows the parent to weigh their response, allows the parent to cool down and not act under pressure, and conveys a special kind of strength. It is not that you don't react immediately in some way. You do, but a central part of your reaction comes later. Of course you act immediately in order to protect your children. For instance, if there is violence between siblings, you step in between them! Some mothers say, "but

"Get our of my room!"  "This is my money!"  "Those are my things!"  Such claims are heard daily in most families. What can we do about it?  A new blog  ( haimomer-nvr.com ) tells a story about this issue. Though the child is 5-years old, the story is probably relevant also for the parents of older children, adolescents, and even young adults who are still living at home. Book release planned for May 15m 2020. Book available on pre-order from MSI Press webstore and from online sellers. Ask at retailers.

When I consider the massive positive response to our approach (NVR or The New Authority) throughout the world, I can attribute this to the fact that we probably succeeded in addressing what is perhaps the most pressing challenge facing parents today. Read the rest of the post HERE . Dr. Omer is author of Courageous Parents .

  Dr. Omer, togetherw with  Els Vandingenen (info@mamacoach.be) has written a two-post series that any parent can relate to -- and gives some help for those times when you feel like you are at the end of your rope. (There is more rope!). Here is an excerpt from the first of the two posts: T he mother tells of conflicting thoughts that don’t give her pause, such as: “Your children really need you!” “Your son will be traumatized if you are not there for him!” “Don’t be like your parents!” “If you start being like them, in the end you’ll be like your grandma!” “Why are other mothers able to fulfill their role smoothly and caringly?” “You are to blame for your child’s anxiety! You never gave him the basic trust that he needs to feel safe!” Or on a different vein altogether: “Why is being a mom so much like a straightjacket?” “Where has my whole life gone?” “How did I get here?” “How come I am completely effaced?” In our next post I’ll describe how the mother and her coach looked for a way

One year after his divorce, Maurice started noticing changes in the behavior of his son, Gabriel (17). When he slept over at his father’s, Gabriel would often absent himself for hours or come back very late without notifying his father. Maurice felt this was the result of a weakening in his parental function, a process that had been aggravated by the stress of the divorce and his fear of losing his son's affection. Maurice decided that he had to change his attitude, if he wanted to keep Gabriel from getting into trouble. When Gabriel next returned at two o’clock at night, he found his father waiting for him in the hall. Maurice said: “Tomorrow we'll have a talk about the rules regarding your outings.” Gabriel began raising his voice in protest, but Maurice told him: “I don’t want to talk now, because both you and I are not in condition to have a good conversation. We'll talk tomorrow when I come back from work.” In the morning, Maurice called Gabriel from his work place

                          Dr. Haim Omer Author of 12 books and morethan 100 articles translatedinto 12 languages, Haim Omer created the “New Authority Approach” to parenting. Born in Brazil to survivors of the Holocaust, he has lived in Israel since 1967. He is a professor at Tel-Aviv University. He is author of  Courageous Parents, which is been reviewed with high favorability. For more posts by and about Omer and his book, check HERE .

  The 6th International Conference on Non-Violent Resistance (NVR) and the New Authority will take place in a virtual format, so that attendees can participate from home!  The conference's physical location is Linz (Austria), and the title is:  From fear, to trust, to cooperation.   Here is the link to the conference:  http://www.nvr2020.com/ . Anyone may attend who so desires. Dr. Omer, psychologist, author, parent, and NVR expert, will give the opening lecture on the subject of: The evidence base of NVR. Dr. Omer is author of Courageous Parents . To read posts by and about him, along with information about and excerpts from his book, click HERE .