Precerpt from My 20th Language: Child vs Adult Language Acquisition, Part 2 (Leaver)


Adult Language Learning vs Child Language Learning
(Part Twp)

Grammatical Competence

Grammatical competence—the ability to produce structurally accurate language—is often assumed to be innate in native speakers. But in reality, it develops slowly and unevenly. In one’s first language, full control over grammar doesn’t typically emerge until around age ten. Before that, children rely on patterns and approximations. They say things like “I goed” or “She don’t like it,” not because they lack intelligence, but because they’re still internalizing the rules. True grammatical accuracy is learned—often through formal education, correction, and exposure to written language.

This has profound implications for adult second-language learners. Adults are expected to produce grammatically correct sentences from the outset, yet they lack the immersive, multi-year K–12 schooling that shaped their native grammaticality. They must learn grammar the hard way: through textbooks, drills, feedback, and conscious analysis. It’s not intuitive. It’s effortful.

And yet, adults can learn grammar—often with greater precision than children. They understand abstract rules, can compare structures across languages, and apply logic to exceptions. What they lack in automaticity, they make up for in awareness. But this awareness comes at a cost: it slows speech, invites self-correction, and can inhibit fluency. The adult learner often knows what’s wrong, but only after saying it.

Children, by contrast, acquire grammar through use. They make mistakes, get corrected, and gradually refine their output. Their errors are forgiven. Adults’ errors are judged.

This is why grammatical competence in a second language is not just a cognitive task—it’s a social and emotional one. It requires resilience, humility, and persistence. It means learning to speak while still learning how to speak.

As adult learners progress in a second language, they often reach a stage of hypercorrectness—where grammatical precision becomes not just a goal, but a habit. They’ve studied the rules, internalized the exceptions, and polished their speech to a high shine. And yet, paradoxically, this very polish can create distance. It can sound artificial, overly formal, or even aloof.

Children, by contrast, make different kinds of mistakes. In Russian, for example, it’s common for children well into their teens to misuse genitive case endings, substituting them for accusative or prepositional forms. These errors are developmental, not cognitive—they reflect ongoing acquisition, not lack of effort. Adults rarely make such mistakes. Their errors tend to be overcorrections, fossilized habits, or misapplications of rules they’ve learned too well.

But here’s the twist: in social settings, hypercorrectness can be a barrier. It signals education, yes—but also unfamiliarity. It can make speech sound like a textbook, not a conversation. Letting go of that precision—allowing for colloquialisms, contractions, even grammatical slips—can be key to building friendships and belonging.

I used to teach workshops in various Russian cities with a highly educated friend with beautiful Russian grammar, Once, in introducing the topic of learner differences/learning styles, I asked participants about differences they observed between us—male/female, tall/short, blonde/brunette, I was surprised by one difference offered: he speaks eruditely like a professor, you talk “dirty” (i.e. grammar not hyperactively correct) like us. So, while my colleague spoke with elegant, erudite Russian, my own speech—less rigid, more idiomatic—resonated with the group. “You talk dirty like us,” they said, not as a critique, but as a compliment. I sounded real, reachable.

This is the social pragmatics of grammar: knowing when to be correct, and when to be human. It’s the difference between giving a lecture and sharing a meal. Between being admired and being embraced.

For adult learners, this means learning not just grammar, but grace. The grace to speak imperfectly, to laugh at mistakes, and to choose connection over correctness. Good grammatical competence does not always equate with highly accurate grammar, but with mis-speakings acceptable to native speakers, mistakes that even native speakers might make—which differ considerably from the kinds of mistakes that leaners make.  A native speaker might overgeneralize the genitive case in Russian; a language learner will not (The genitive case is too difficult!) A learner, on the other hand, might make a mistake in aspect in Russian or Spanish. A native speaker would not. So “talking dirty” only acceptably occurs when the mistakes are of the same ilk as those of the native speakers.

 

Cognitive Capital: The Knowledge We Bring

Language learning is not just about sounds and grammar—it’s about meaning. And meaning is shaped by cognition: the learner’s understanding of the world, their ability to make connections, and their capacity to interpret nuance. In this regard, adults have a distinct advantage. They bring with them a rich tapestry of experiences, concepts, and cultural frameworks that can accelerate comprehension and deepen engagement.

An adult encountering the word democracy in a new language doesn’t just learn its pronunciation or spelling. They map it onto a lifetime of civic understanding, historical context, and personal beliefs. A child, by contrast, may learn the word phonetically long before grasping its implications. Adults can read between the lines, infer tone, and detect irony—skills that are cognitive, not linguistic.

This cognitive capital also allows adults to transfer knowledge across domains. A scientist learning German may quickly grasp technical vocabulary because the concepts are familiar. A musician learning Italian may intuit rhythm and phrasing. Adults don’t start from scratch; they build on scaffolds.

But this strength can also be a trap. Adults may over-rely on translation, resist unfamiliar idioms, or expect logical consistency where language defies it. Their knowledge can both illuminate and interfere. The key is flexibility: to use cognition as a bridge, not a barrier.

Children, meanwhile, learn language as a way of constructing their world. Adults use language to navigate a world they already know. Both paths are valid. Both are profound.

 

Domain-Dependent Vocabulary: Knowing Before Naming

Language is not just a tool for communication—it’s a vessel for thought. And the kinds of thoughts we carry depend on our life experience, education, and exposure to abstract domains. Adults, by virtue of having lived longer and thought more deeply, often possess complex conceptual frameworks before they ever encounter their lexical equivalents in a new language.

Take a concept like restorative justice. A child may grasp fairness or apology, but the layered meanings of accountability, reconciliation, and systemic repair are beyond their developmental reach. An adult, however, may already understand these ideas in their native language. Their task in a second language is not to learn the concept, but to map it—to find the lexicalization, the idioms, the register that carries the same weight.

This is domain-dependent vocabulary: words and phrases tied to specialized knowledge—philosophy, theology, law, economics, or even spiritual practice. Adults often know what they want to say; they simply lack the linguistic tools to say it in the new language. Children, by contrast, may learn the words first and only later grow into their meanings.

This dynamic creates a fascinating asymmetry. A child may sound fluent but be conceptually limited. An adult may sound hesitant but be intellectually expansive. Fluency, then, is not just about speed or accent—it’s about depth. And depth comes from knowing before naming.

For adult learners, this is both a challenge and a gift. It means they must seek out vocabulary that matches their cognitive terrain. But it also means that once they find it, their speech can carry nuance, precision, and insight that children simply cannot yet express.

 

Level 4: Beyond Fluency—Pragmatics, Sociolinguistics, and Genre

Reaching Level 4 in language proficiency means moving beyond grammatical correctness and lexical range into the realm of social competence. It’s the ability to use language appropriately across contexts, to understand not just what is said, but how, why, and to whom. This includes:

  • Pragmatics: Knowing when to be direct or indirect, how to signal politeness, how to interpret silence, irony, or implication. A child might say “Give me that,” while an adult might say, “Would you mind passing that over?”—not because they know more words, but because they understand the social weight of phrasing.
  • Sociolinguistics: Understanding how language varies across regions, classes, genders, and communities. Adults learn to navigate registers—formal, informal, intimate, professional—and to shift between them. They learn how language signals identity, status, and belonging.
  • Genre: Recognizing and producing different types of discourse—narrative, argument, report, sermon, joke, condolence. Each has its own structure, tone, and expectations. Children may master storytelling or playground banter. Adults must learn how to write a business email, deliver a eulogy, or participate in a theological debate.

Children, immersed in peer culture, acquire the pragmatics of childhood. If they disengage from the language after early exposure, they may retain a childlike register into adulthood—using outdated slang, overly simple constructions, or inappropriate tone. Adults, by contrast, learn the pragmatics of adult society. They may never sound native, but they can sound appropriate—a far more powerful skill.

Level 4 is not just about speaking well. It’s about knowing how to be in the language. It’s the difference between asking for directions and giving a toast. Between reading a menu and interpreting a poem. Between sounding fluent and sounding fully present.

 

Cultural Competence: From Exposure to Transformation

Language is inseparable from culture. To speak a language well is not only to master its grammar and vocabulary, but to understand its values, assumptions, and social rhythms. This is what we call cultural competence—the ability to interpret and respond appropriately within the cultural framework of the language being used.

Children acquire cultural competence organically. They absorb it through play, schooling, and daily interaction. Their understanding is age-appropriate: they learn how to be polite in a classroom, how to joke on the playground, how to navigate peer dynamics. Their cultural fluency grows with their maturity. But it is bounded by their developmental stage—they may know how to ask for a snack, but not how to negotiate a contract or interpret a political cartoon.

Adults, by contrast, often need transformative experiences to shift their cultural lens. It’s not enough to memorize etiquette or study customs. Real change comes through disorienting dilemmas—moments when one’s assumptions no longer work. Being misunderstood despite grammatical accuracy. Offending someone unintentionally. Feeling alienated in a social setting. These moments, while uncomfortable, are fertile ground for growth.

Working through such dilemmas requires humility, reflection, and adaptation. Adults must learn not just what to say, but how to be—how to gesture, how to pause, how to express disagreement or gratitude in culturally resonant ways. This process is not automatic. It demands emotional labor and a willingness to let go of one’s native norms.

But when adults do engage deeply, they can reach levels of cultural competence that are both sophisticated and empathetic. They can navigate professional hierarchies, spiritual communities, and interpersonal relationships with nuance. They can code-switch not just linguistically, but culturally.

In this sense, cultural competence is not a byproduct of language learning—it is its culmination. And for adults, it is often the fruit of transformation.

 

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