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    Emotional intelligence isn't about controlling emotions or silencing them. It’s about building a relationship with them: learning their language, tracing their roots, and honoring their message without being hijacked by their immediacy. It’s about becoming your own interpreter—of your body, your memories, and your inner world. 🌿 The Inner Landscape: Making Peace with Your Emotions We often inherit scripts about what emotions are "acceptable." Joy is welcomed, but grief must be tidy. Anger is feared, but calm is worshiped. In mastering your emotions, you don’t suppress—they aren't enemies to be vanquished but messengers to be understood. Self-discovery begins when we ask, with gentle curiosity: Where did this feeling come from? What is it trying to teach me? What patterns keep repeating—and why? Awareness is the first transformation. And with it, compassion naturally follows. 🔎 Emotional Intelligence in Action Think of emotional intelligence as four interconnecte...

  excerpt from  Learning to Feel  (Kris Girrell) --  1 I Think I Feel “I still don’t think you’ve done the deep work on yourself,” Sarah told me. “What do you mean? I have gone to therapy and done tons of work to discover the source of it,” I defended. “But you haven’t uncovered the real issue, in my opinion,” she replied. “What were you feeling that caused you to do that?” Sarah has been my marriage partner and partner in life over the last thirty plus years and,  at the same time, the thorn in my side who won’t permit me to ignore or step over issues.  We were talking about a time in our marriage quite some time ago when I allowed myself  to fall into a sexually flirtatious email exchange with an old flame. It was a painful time  that was almost the undoing of our marriage. While I have journaled on it and gone to  therapy on it, all in the effort to discover what in me would allow or cause such an action,  her claim that there is stil...