Daily Excerpt: The Widower's Guide to a New Life (Romer) - Learning to Be Alone
Excerpt from The Widower's Guide to a New Life by Joanna Romer -
INTRODUCTION
Learning to Be Alone
When
we lose a loved one—a friend or relative—our first reaction after the pain is
usually atavistic: how will this affect me?
When we lose a spouse, however, no such reaction is possible. The grieving
widower or widow soon becomes aware that this loss is catastrophic in a
different way: it’s more like losing a part of oneself, one’s arms or legs. We
keep waiting for that dear one to reappear, we want to claim her or him—until
we realize this isn’t going to happen. We’re alone. Not only are we in pain but also we’re alone.
For
the widower, in particular, this can be quite a shock. Accustomed to having a
“right hand” or equal partner always around, the newly bereaved man can be
thrown into confusion. He has not realized his level of co-dependency.
Suddenly, he’s facing life without his spouse in a thousand different ways, and
he is devastated.
What
can you do when your beloved wife
dies? As one of the widowers in this book stated, acceptance is the key factor.
You have to accept the reality that your spouse is gone and that you must
continue your life’s journey without her. Nothing can bring your dear wife
back, but there are ways to comfort yourself. Other men have figured it out,
and so can you. From learning how to live by yourself successfully to deciding
to remarry, there are numerous paths you can take to rebuild your life. The men
interviewed in this book have shared their stories in the hope that what
they’ve gone through will help you, the new widower, cope with your loss.
God bless you as you put the pieces of your life back
together!
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This book was a finalist for the Book of the Year Award.
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