How do couples stay in love for decades?
People often assume that couples who remain deeply in love for thirty, forty, or fifty years have somehow avoided the problems the rest of us face. They imagine a rare compatibility, a fortunate streak of good luck, or a relationship untouched by disappointment. The reality is usually much more ordinary and much more encouraging. Long-lasting loving couples do not avoid life's challenges. They experience illness, financial stress, disagreements, family conflicts, and periods of exhaustion just like everyone else. What distinguishes them is not the absence of problems but the habits they develop in responding to them. They Choose Each Other Again and Again Love may begin as a feeling, but lasting love becomes a practice. Couples who remain close for decades repeatedly choose the relationship even when life becomes difficult. They make time for conversations when schedules are crowded. They stay engaged when misunderstanding would be easier. They continue investing in one another l...